Hello again lovely people! Well its closing in on the end of the year and we've got a few moments to look back and see whats happened. Things f...
A year in review
December 24, 2014
When the time comes
January 26, 2015
So often, at least in the culture I am familiar with, we feel the need as humans to say things that might over dramatize the situation. In the case of lovers who have to be apart most often, saying things that make everything more important than it really is in hopes of connecting better and making that moment more important. For those lovers, that moment is all that matters, and remembering it as vividly as possible. Trying to connect to something that's bigger than yourself. We practice what we're going to say, try to come up with the best analogies and metaphors, and anything else that will make that moment have more impact with hopes of having it last a lifetime, Though that's rarely accomplished.
The same could be said of Goodbye's, regardless of whom you may share them with. Be it friends or family. A goodbye can either be the close of a chapter on your life which starts another, or the end of a book for someone else. When you think about it sometimes the closing words you have with someone are the most important. Its can affect how you look back on things, completely changing the journey you've been on. Everyone wants to have the perfect Hollywood-esk ending, the perfect words, perfect setting, the perfect ending. No matter what you do there will always be variables that will be out of your control. Given you do everything you can to make this happen, will it be what you want it to be? Can reality ever match your hopes for something “magical?”
What if your put in a place, on the spot where you have to say goodbye to someone forever and you had no idea it was coming? You have a second to come up with something to say that with the conditions will never be perfect, and no matter what you say all you’ll remember is having to say goodbye, not so much what you said but where you were when you said it. What do you say? Where do you begin? With how little time you have what can you say that matters?
What if the person your saying goodbye to doesn’t even know your saying anything at all? They have no idea your stumbling over your words, no idea where the voice is coming from, and no idea that your doing all you can to keep from breaking down and losing it. In such a state would it matter if you were hysterical or collected? Which one will you remember more?
We hope to share the important moments in life with someone in person. Good or bad, the most you can hope for is to be there. Speak to or hold them when the moment requires it. When the old woman asks her grandson “when am I going to get better?” You couldn’t hold her hand over the phone, put your arm around her over the phone, or hold her when she begins to sob over the phone. And like wise when her mind slips and she asks you who the hell you are just a moment later you couldn't do damage control over the phone.
And when you receive an unexpected phone call saying that someone you care for is in the hospital and doesn't have much time left, with the distance of hundreds of miles between you, its that moment when you have to say good bye, through speaker phone to someone who is in a state close to comatose. And just like that you have to find the words, your final words to someone, Unplanned, unexpected, and unprepared. Trying to keep your composure and find something to say, something that matters. When you have so little time to make this story one with a memorable ending and no time to rehearse. What do you say? How do you do this scene justice? Saying your final words which you wont be able to remember a moment from now, You make the most of this painful and unrehearsed goodbye. Part of you is afraid to finish talking, because when you're done its all over...